Blonde Ambition: The do’s and don’ts.






Going blonde has been something I’ve wanted to try my whole life but haven’t had the courage to do. What better time to do it than during my make-over year. It has had mixed reactions from those around me but mainly positive. This was phase two, phase one being the first round of colour stripping which left me with uneven, blotches of orange. With 20 years of black box colour on my hair it hasn’t been easy. Approximately 2 more sessions and I should be a proud “bottle blonde”……if my courage holds out.

Kate Emsley


It will take so many sessions to achieve because I used box colour instead of having it professionally done. But lets face it, colouring your hair at a salon is not cheap and not convenient. These days the box colour is so easy to use and is so affordable, why wouldn’t we want to use it? I am quickly learning why.

If you think stripping colour from your hair in one go is damaging, then here’s news for you. The box colour is doing more damage. They contain harsh ingredients that can strip your hair and leave the cuticles irreparably damaged. The likelihood is that your hair will look and feel like straw, and there is no way to remedy this. Once your hair has been destroyed this badly, you simply have to wait for it to grow out, or if it’s really bad, you need to cut it off. Being a regular user of the box, my hair was indeed like straw, I had no idea the damage I was doing. Then suddenly, overnight, my hair went from being straw to being painfully oily and I was forced to wash it every day. I had decided to cut my hair off in a short bob but then thought, what’s scarier, going blonde just once or cutting off my locks.

Deciding to go blonde was the best idea I’ve had yet for my hair since it forced me to go to a professional. Stripping the colour from my hair will take 4 sessions, simply because of the volume of colour that is on there. Yes, my hair feels like straw now if I don’t use the quality, professional product given to me by my stylist, but better yet, I can go four days now without washing it. I am now on day 5 and it is only starting to feel oily now. The product I’ve bought however keeps my hair feeling soft and healthy, the best you can hope for really when bleaching your hair. Going blonde in a salon can cost you an arm and a leg and those of you who know me, know my Scottish blood runs deep, I always find the best quality possible for the lowest price possible. I go to a woman who works from home, with a string of clients leaving the salon to follow her I have to fight for an appointment. Just because they work from home doesn’t make them any less capable, it means you get the care and attention you really want when you have your hair done.

Being blonde is not a long term thing for me since I don’t want to completely destroy my hair, but while I have it I’m going to enjoy it. They do say that blondes have more fun, so far that hasn’t proved to be true.

Fingers crossed.


What happens when you try to go blonde at home:

Orange tint and flat colour.

Lifeless, straw-like texture.

Photo of a brunette girl who went blonde.

Brunette to Blonde done in a salon by a professional.



Sick World!

We are living in world that calls this girl “Plus Size”. I don’t really think I need to say much here….it speaks for itself.


Be Realistic!

I’m finding that I have to keep reminding myself to have realistic expectations. The media bombards one with images of the “perfect” woman and I sometimes get it into my head that that is what I have to look like. But the reality is, that’s never going to happen. No matter how much weight I lose I’ll never look like that. We have different body shapes and types and what we see in the media is NOT realistic.

Yes, some women are naturally built that way, but they are few and far between. In reality, most of us have curves, flat chests or droopy breasts. Some of us have big thighs and some have no thighs at all. Some have long slender necks, other short. Some have gaps between their thighs, some don’t, some have flat tummies and some rounded fuller tummies.  Whatever your shape, celebrate it and concentrate more on being healthy than looking like a model in the magazine.   I’m no saint, I fall into the same trap all of you do too.

Here are a couple videos you may or may not have seen. Just to give you an idea of what it is exactly that we’re trying to live up to.

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The fun side of losing weight

As those pounds melt away you start to notice your clothes don’t fit you so well and before you know it you literally don’t have anything to wear. Especially if you’re losing significant numbers.

The first two times I needed new clothes I bought 2 pairs of shorts and borrowed a couple of t-shirts from my mother. I knew I wanted to lose more weight and shopping for a new wardrobe now would be a huge waste of money.

As I am approaching my goal weight, I am realizing that this new body of mine is going to need a whole new look. A full on make-over. That means new hair as well as well as new clothes. I want to wash away the sad fat girl that still lives inside me. That insecure girl is still inside my head and I need to find a way to get her out. To show myself that I now deserve to have confidence in my appearance.

So I’ve been perusing the internet looking for things that I like that hopefully will help keep me inspired to finish this journey. For the first time, I’m looking for things that I like instead of looking for things that will hide my flaws.

As far as I am concerned, the world would be a prettier place if we could just get over the 80’s phase.  Back when it was still 1988 it was awesome.  The fashion was new, exciting and “oh so modern”.  After that I remember reliving the 60’s and 70’s. In the 90’s we all stopped wearing pretty clothes and the grunge look took over.

In the 2000’s we had the boho/vintage look, but come 2010 the 80’s came back. Okay, it was fun for about 5 mins, reminiscing about my youth. But it’s still here, and what’s worse, grunge is coming back now too, so right now we have a fusion of 80’s and grunge, neither of which were great on their own but now we have both coming together.

If they want to bring back fashion of the past, why can’t they bring back something with a little class that still made women look like women. Like the 20’s?

Katie Holmes has impeccable taste in clothing. Whether she is dressing up or dressing down. For me, she knows how to be feminine, elegant and she somehow makes baggy jeans look fabulous. At least someone in this world isn’t wearing neon.

Katie Holmes dressed down in baggy jeans

Katie Holmes standing on the red carpet wearing an elegant black dress.

Katie Holmes sporting a pair of boyfriend jeans, white short sleeved cardigan, black scarf with white polka dots and dark sunglasses.